As women in the most ripe bracket (25 plus, working and awesome) for marketers of everything from face creams to beauty supplements, we’re constantly inundated with advertising messages to fight wrinkles and battle the bulge …but has it been working for us? Well, maybe for some of us, and to some extent. Now, a ground breaking research study by Kellogs Special K reveals the root cause and culprit of all our ‘weighty’ issues- its FAT TALKING!
What does that mean? Kellogs Special K reveals that ‘fat talk’ – the negative comments we make criticizing our bodies and that of others’ – is wreaking havoc with our relationships! It’s no secret that thinking positively is important to getting in shape, yet more than two thirds (70%) of women in the UK, for example, admit they ‘fat talk’ and criticise their body with their partners at least once a day. A third (37%) would be prepared to end a relationship over jibes directed at them by a partner, whilst more than half (54%) said they feel too insecure about their bodies to be intimate with partners who ‘fat talk’ incessantly.
Adele, Beyoncé and Kelly Brook are held up as the most inspirational women when it comes to banishing ‘fat talk’ and embracing a positive state of mind about their body shapes. Other celebrities such as Victoria Beckham, Kate Moss and Karl Lagerfeld – who famously criticised Adele’s weight – were named by respondents as the most negative shape role models.
Now that the diagnosis is made, the cure is pretty simple- Keep your conversations free of idle gossip and fat-talk and more importantly, eat healthy- you are what you eat, afterall. As for me, I love variety in my breakfast and love to mix up cereal, porridge, cereal bars and cracker crisps- (oh and my guilty pleasure- Kellogs Chocos).
For the mind, Positivity Psychology Coach Miriam Akhtar has prescribed 10 simple steps for a healthy, happier state of mind free from negativity:
1. Train your brain: Your brain has a negativity bias, so it’s crucial to focus on your positive assets– great sense of humour, lovely smile – to help you aim for success every day.
2. Stay kind: When you perform an act of kindness for someone, both you and the recipient feel good which leads to positivity bouncing back and forth between you.
3. Be an optimist: Recognise that temporary set backs are just that – temporary. Thinking this way helps build a more positive state of mind.
4. Think small: Build confidence by making small goals and recognising every single achievement.
5. Live your life purpose: Look ahead and make plans. Making progress towards your vision will give you a sense of satisfaction and boost your positivity.
6. Get perspective: Think about life in more flexible terms. Negative beliefs can turn into monsters, so do your best to put them in perspective and think of what action you can take.
7. Cherish love: Love is the queen of positive emotions, but for a relationship to truly flourish, you need a ratio of 5:1 positive to negative emotions. Boost your well-being by being as social as you can and nurturing your life-affirming relationships.
8. Thank-you Therapy: Take some time at the end of every day to think about what’s gone well, what’s good in your life and what you are grateful for.
9. Bring the Fun Factor: Do what you love – the fun, enjoyable and healthy things in life maximise the joy in your positivity machine.
Do it for you: Having positive motivations for success maximises your chances. ‘Intrinsic motivation’ is where you’re motivated to do something for its own sake and is more likely to work than an extrinsic motivation.
So ladies, this year, gear up for a beautiful mind, body and soul- let’s remember to eat healthy and stay positive as Buddha once said, “What you think, you become.”